The ‘No Regrets’ Philosophy
My mom is in town visiting and we went to visit her aunt today, my great aunt. This woman is 94 years old, but you would never believe it. Up until a few years ago, she was still actively working in her business. She is one remarkable lady – still making sure to get daily exercise by walking, eating well, and making the time to get her nails and hair done too. Self-care is important at every age!
She started talking about how her one regret in life is that she didn’t have a child, but not for the reasons you may think. She said it was a conscious choice she made over 50 years ago to not have a child. She didn’t want one, not because she didn’t like kids, she loves them, but it wasn’t a priority of hers. She calls it a regret now, but only because she is feeling a bit lonely at this stage of her life.
My philosophy is and has been a ‘No Regrets’ one. In my opinion, a regret keeps you stuck in the past, mulling over what could have been, with no real guarantee that it actually would have been the way you envisioned. To have regrets is futile, if you ask me. Unless, you can unequivocally change the course of the regret by actively making a change given what you now know, then I don’t see the benefit in having regrets.
Now, that doesn’t mean I’ve never had them, because I’m human and of course I do. I do my best though to move past that feeling in a more constructive way. Regrets breed unnecessary suffering, and leaves us playing the same sad tune over and over again hoping for a different ending. For that reason, I don’t see the point.
You don’t have to agree. I would love to know your thoughts on my ‘No Regrets’ philosophy. Life is too short to regret what may have been. Instead, seize every moment and live in the present, because that is where it really matters.
Have a great weekend!